Single, Never Married

October 30, 2010 § Leave a comment

Who Is Wonder Woman?

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I read a blog recently about the challenges of dating written by a single woman in her late 30’s. She mentioned that some study indicated that after age 40, her chances of becoming a victim of terrorism were greater than her chances of getting married. I just had to chime in on this topic because even though I am married, I have some strong thoughts on singledom.

Being single can be scary, especially for women, but there are definitely some advantages that are often taken for granted. The main advantage is freedom.

If you stay single, you have the freedom to be the person you want to be. You have complete autonomy to take a job in any location your path may take you. You can toil for as many hours as you feel you would like to without hearing objections. You can dress the way you’d like, decorate the way you’d like, listen to the music you like and cook the foods you like. To sum it up, being single allows you immense freedom to spend time the way YOU want to spend time and that can be extremely rewarding. But you have to look at it that way.

The secret to being happily single is to be productive, whatever being productive means to you. Many women, especially those that are in their mid-to-late 30’s feel they need to keep shopping for Mr. Right. They spend too much time feeling bad about not being married. Instead, use that time to be useful. Find a need, something that feels right and jump in. It may be career related, church related, craft related or even animal related. Recognize and develop your talents and find someone or something that could use your help. If you aren’t sure what you want to do, try things, experiment with different opportunities–take classes, attend seminars, volunteer at charitable organizations. You are only held back by what you are letting yourself be held back by.

Being single is not a waste of time or waste of life, it is just the opposite–it’s an opportunity to grow and experience and produce without the constraints that being married would impose.

Most importantly, never ever feel bad about being single. Don’t feel you need to make excuses for it or give anyone some type of explanation for it. In our culture of embracing diversity, embrace singlehood as you do your ethnicity or your religion–celebrate it, brag about it, enjoy it and make the best of it. Whatever you do– don’t waste it.


dress your age?

October 27, 2010 § 1 Comment

Linda Hogan and the silver shoes (what's that creature crawling up her dress?) / photo via

Many women just can’t believe they aren’t the same hot young things they used to be. Take Linda Hogan. 50-yr old Linda not only doesn’t dress her age, I am not so sure she dresses appropriate for anyone’s age.

But here’s the question–do you get a “dress sexy & young” pass if you have a boyfriend that’s half your age? It only seems right.

no beautiful actresses?

October 25, 2010 § 2 Comments

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According to Joan Collins there aren’t any beautiful actresses anymore. Well except one. Sort of.

“I have to say, there aren’t that many good-looking actresses around today. I mean, there’s Angelina Jolie and there’s… Angelina Jolie”. Almighty Joan can’t think of any really beautiful actresses. “ is cute, but I wouldn’t call her beautiful.”

Interesting. Angelina Jolie is “good Looking”, but there’s absolutely NO really beautiful actresses. Not a one. According to Joan, all the actresses of her  time were REALLY beautiful. Beautiful as in Ava Gardner and Lana Turner and by default,  Joan herself.

Collins once said that getting on the wrong side of Bette Davis taught her all she needed to know about playing a bitch. Joan–it’s working.

beautiful lady, not sure about the hat

October 23, 2010 § 2 Comments

I am very familiar with bad hair days, but this poor lady could be having a bad HAT day. Grooming required?

No Date for Ellen

October 22, 2010 § 2 Comments

Ellen please--that hair...!

I was thumbing through the 1942 October edition of Good Housekeeping and came across this adorable ad.

Ellen is cute as a button, but gosh with that awful drab-looking hair–she’s destined for life as a librarian hoarder living with 37 cats.

Don’t mess with these ladies of the PLAV

October 18, 2010 § 2 Comments

Years after my grandmother passed away, I was going through old photographs she had tucked away and I became intrigued with a black/white image taken in Detroit in the early 1940s. It was a photo of my grandmother and three other ladies, all dressed in nurse-type uniforms layered with long black capes and matching caps. My grandmother was smiling, proudly holding the American flag. She and many women just like her, were members of the Ladies Auxiliary of the Polish Legion of American Veterans (PLAV). I guess that’s just what you did back then—the country was embroiled in the Second World War and many felt compelled to take part whether it be helping veterans or promoting Americanism. As I studied this photo I couldn’t help but appreciate this small determined-looking group as they were strongly united not only with their country during a very difficult time but also with their heritage.

I immediately showed the photo to my husband, pointing with pride to my grandmother, announcing to him as I tapped on the photo, “that’s my grandmother.” He looked at it for more than a few seconds and slowly said, “and that’s my grandmother,” and pointed to the lady holding the official PLAV banner, standing near my grandmother.

We were stunned but excited to discover that our grandmothers were part of the same organization some 70 years ago. I never met my husband’s grandmother and he never met mine, but we often wonder if they were good close friends or merely casual acquaintances during the war.

The bigger question is what they would have thought if they knew they would be united not only as proud Americans showcasing their patriotism that day, but also by two people they hadn’t met yet, one granddaughter and one grandson who were to be born a couple of decades later.

It’s a small world. Even now.


October 17, 2010 § 2 Comments

Today I was listening to my favorite old radio show, Dragnet, and they described the bad teens as “hoodlums.” I immediately thought of my grandmother. She loved the word hoodlums..any teenager she didn’t like the looks of became one.

Whatever happened to hoodlums?

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